4 Ways to Reap a Beautiful Harvest in Your Marriage

Do you want your marriage to reap a beautiful harvest of love and kindness. If you tend to your marriage as you should; putting God first, being humble, and praying for Him to open your eyes to the seeds to sow, the weeds to pull, and the sprouts to spot, you will have a beautiful garden that will yield a fruitful and joyful harvest.

reap a beautiful harvestIt seems these days people are always talking about balance; a balanced work schedule, a balanced diet, a balanced Cheerio to milk ratio! But life isn’t really about a give and take balance when it comes to the relationship between a husband and wife.

It is not an accounting problem with checks and balances. Where you keep track of ll the things you do for him. Or all the things he did not do the way that you wanted.

Marriage is more like a garden in many ways. It is a lot of work! A lot of sowing and weeding. But what rejoicing when you begin to see little green sprouts popping up!

Sow, Sow, Sow

The first little while of marriage is thrilling! You are so in love! Just like a freshly tilled plot of land. The dreaming and designing. Carefully laid out plans, and the joy of a fresh start.

But then something else starts to creep in…

the left open cabinet doors…

the laundry on the floor…

and the shaving hairs left in the sink!

All of these little things start to add up to a big problem, and can easily get you riled up and angry. But this is not the time to get negative, contentious, or divorced!

It isΒ better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.” Proverbs 25:24

Now is the time to sow! It is time to roll up your sleeves and get to work. Because at the end of your marriage, you will have a plot of land full of ugly weeds and prickly briers, if you do not sow now!

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What should you sow?

  • Kindness – do nice things for him every day, whether you feel like he deserves it or not
  • Peace – do not fight, yell, or nag, instead pray
  • Love – make a point to love him every day, make a list of the reasons that you love him and all that he does for you. Remember the good times
  • Respect – Respect him as the head of your home, this is God’s command for you!
  • Thankfulness – Thank God for him and thank him for all that he does for you and your family
  • Interest – show an interest in what matters to him, whether or not he does it for you, sow an interest in him and his work and passions

If you sow these things into your marriage each day you will have a beautiful garden in no time.

Rip Out Those Weeds

Weeds have not place in a garden. They take vital water and nutrients away from what you really want to grow. Like big juich beautiful tomatoes! Yum–homemade tomato sandwiches!

There is no place for weeds in the Christian life or marriage either. These weeks can get out of control super fast. So we must be diligent and rip them put.

  • Negativity – when you focus on the negative, you see the negative. That is just the way it is
  • Nagging – NO MAN wants to be nagged and harped at, telling him all the way that he is getting it all wrong. It is hurtful to him and to your marriage
  • Anger – We all get angry at times, but to hold on to that anger and have a heart of unforgiveness is not OK
  • Controlling – God designed the family unit for the an to be the head of it. If you are calling all the shots, no matter how subtly, you are dishonoring God and your husband. You are also showing your lack of trust in your husband. And since God chose him to lead you, a lack of trust in God as well. Let Go!!
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If you want a bountiful harvest you have to get rid of these weeds and fast. Because, let me tell you, those little buggers can over urn your garden and ruin everything.

reap a beautiful harvest

Spot the Sprouts

How excited are you when you plant something and see that first little green spout? It is a joyous occasion! That little bit of green in all that brown. We must hunt just as earnestly for the beautiful sprout in our marriage. The beauty and the blessings. Honestly it is easy to do once you get rid of all the weeds.

Reap the Harvest

A gardener’s favorite time is when the harvest comes in. She has been watching these plants grow for months and now she has a fruitful and beautiful garden. Every now and again she finds one or two of those ugly weeds in her garden, but she is quick to take care and rip it out. She has put in the hard work and now she can reap a beautiful harvest.

If you tend to your marriage as you should; putting God first, being humble, and praying for Him to open your eyes to the seeds to sow, the weeds to pull, and the sprouts to spot, you will have a beautiful garden that will yield a fruitful and joyful harvest.

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16 thoughts on “4 Ways to Reap a Beautiful Harvest in Your Marriage

  1. Visiting you from Live Life Well linkup. Your post is filled with so much encouragement and so many good reminders for every married person. These are things you need to hear whether you are in your 2nd year of marriage or your 50th. Thanks for sharing truths so easily forgotten. Sweet Blessings to you.

    1. Cheryl,

      Thank you so much for stopping by, it is such a blessing to me. Thank you also for your sweet words. Marriage is such a blessing, I am thankful to God for the lessons that He has allowed me to learn. And how I have grown as a woman and Christian through my marriage. I pray you have a blessed day!



  2. Hello Amy, I love to do gardening. It has become a great source of relaxation in my life. You have described great points about planting. I love it. Thanks for sharing nice tips with us.

  3. There’s so much wisdom here! I love your practical examples for how to sow seeds of love in this garden we call marriage. And it’s so true we have to diligently pluck out those weeds in order to see something beautiful. This reminded me to do a careful examination of my heart, so that I can serve my husband well. Thank you!

  4. I love all these analogies, Amy! I tend to think this way about our walk with the Lord, but it definitely applies to marriage, too. It does take hard work, but we will reap the benefits. I think this is my first time here. Glad to meet you!

    1. Kelly,

      Thank you so much for stopping by! I am so thankful for you! You are right, they definitely correspond with our walk with the Lord as well! I am glad you enjoyed the post! πŸ™‚



  5. This piece is full of so much wisdom. God has used my marriage to show me many surprises. Like when I let go of control, my husband usually steps up without my prompting or reminding. Or when I pray for him instead of nagging him, God leads his heart much more effectively. I love your reminder that we all have a few weeds, but to recognize them and pull them out quickly. This is a beautiful guide for a Christain wife.
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    1. Jessica, You are so right! Isn’t it amazing how God can work sometimes if we will just get out of the way!? LOL. I find myself doing these things as well. Thinking that I can “fix” the situation. But we can not change peoples minds or hearts, only God can do that!



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